Do Your Thoughts Belong to You?
Are your thoughts really yours?
Have you ever questioned why you think the way you do? Or even if you really believe the way you think? We are programmed from birth by our parents and other influential people, and TV and other sources so powerfully, that most of us probably don’t even question why we feel or think the way we do. We just assume that it belongs to us.
I came across an interesting concept a few years ago through Access Consciousness. The idea was in a form of a question. When you have a limiting thought or belief, ask yourself, “Who does this belong to?”
I know for me, my parents both had very different ideas about things as I was growing up. My dad tends to be very cautious and afraid of everything (stems from childhood and 2 tours in Vietnam with PTSD). My mom on the other hand, has always been more daring and willing to try things. Unfortunately, I grew up afraid of everything. And, as an adult, realized that a lot (probably all) of my fears are really not mine. They belong to my dad. I am still on my journey of releasing this way of living and it has brought me to many self healing methods (and realizations) that I now help others with in their healing journey.
As we grow up, our parents may instill in us their worries, fears, feeling, thoughts and so forth. And, because it is so repetitive, we take on their beliefs and feelings about life. We just never stop to question if it is really our belief or not.
Here is an example as a parent how I realized this in my own life as a mom and now I am able to change how I interact with my children (who are almost grown now).
A few years ago, I was at a local theme park with my youngest daughter and her friend. She decided she wanted to experience the BIG roller coaster. (We have been on the kiddie one many times over the years, and that is not without some screams). My initial thought (and I almost spoke it out loud), was “No way! You will be terrified and freak out, and want to get off part way through the ride and I won’t be able to stop the ride for you to get off!” So, my fears were about myself, not being able to protect her if she got scared and my own fears of the BIG roller coaster. I have been on them, and prefer not to do it again (at least for now ~ working on this one). I am happy to say, that I actually stopped myself from expressing this to her. Instead, I realized that I would be tainting her experience and that she might actually enjoy the BIG roller coaster even though I don’t. So, I let go…and said, “OK, have fun!” And, I watched her swirling around and laughing with her friend…repeatedly! She loved it and went on it a few times. In this case, I was so glad I kept my opinions to myself and let her experience it completely on her own and form her own opinions. I have to remember sometimes, that we are all infinite beings with infinite knowledge. And, I feel that just because I am the adult, doesn’t always mean that I know best.
Now, I have not done this always, but, over the past few years, I try to “let go” more and let her and her older sister experience things from a place of innocence and not let my feelings or experience influence and taint how they feel when they try something for the first time. I am not perfect at it, but, I am aware now.
There are so many areas this could affect your life. What thoughts and feelings hold you back? When you feel apprehension or fear, ask yourself, “Who does this belong to?” It is funny, if you let go and listen, you might actually get an answer…or not. But, you may realize, that the thought or feeling really isn’t yours. And, sometimes, just asking yourself that one question, can actually release it, and you may find that you feel totally different if you leave space for something else, that you don’t expect at all. And, this is where the magic happens. It can open doors that were once closed due to our own closed mindedness and defenses and fears, that really….don’t belong to us. Who’s thoughts, feelings and fears are holding you back from living the life you are meant to live joyously?
– Yvette Marie is a Certified Energy healer, certified Thought Field Therapy practitioner, and Advanced Bio-energetic muscle testing practitioner using advanced energy and body scans through Quantum Techniques methods. Yvette has also been certified as a Reiki practitioner and Access Consciousness practitioner. She is not a licensed therapist. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care. –
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