Hi beautiful souls! Have you ever felt like you don’t fit in? Like this world was not meant for you? Do you often feel overwhelmed by other people’s energy? Do you have trouble setting boundaries, saying, “no”, or distinguishing where others end and you begin? I’ve been there and with a some work and self-healing or help you can shift into more self-worth and acceptance and begin feeling more harmonious in yourself with more peace and clarity feeling like life is supporting you instead of against you.

I am a highly sensitive empath with some high masking autistic traits (in females). I tend to be on somewhat of the severe end of highly sensitive empath with many of the traits you may read about and even some others that I haven’t yet been able to identify belonging to a specific label. Which is OK, because I am not big on labels to begin with, I’d rather instead find an understanding and solution if I’m out of alignment or unhealthy in some way or feeling out of whack. I have spent the better part of my adult life seeking answers as to why I am the way I am and why I simply have never felt that I fit in this world. I have other family members (immediate and other relatives) that also display these traits and find it challenging to maneuver through the complexities of daily life with such sensitivities. I have spent many years studying, getting certifications in alternative healing and navigating self-healing in order to not only heal past trauma (cptsd) but also become more aware of old patterns, discover self-worth, experience more peace and harmony and work towards a life that is more fulfilling and healthy for me mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, relationally and financially.

Being a highly sensitive empath brings certain challenges and blessings all mixed together.

As a highly sensitive empath I am more attuned to others feeling and emotions. I don’t simply notice them, I take in others feelings, emotions and even physical symptoms as my own especially if they are very close to me so I have had to learn to say, “no” and set very high boundaries. There are many times when I know ahead of time what someone is going to share with me before they even speak or are in my presence. I sometimes know right before someone calls they will be calling. I have sensed specific relationship issues before words are spoken or others confide in me. I have multiple people in my life that are alcoholics and/or addicts either in recovery or still using substances. One person in particular used narcotics and fell off the wagon for a short time and is now clean and sober for a while and confided in me that I would somehow call them every time they were about to use their narcotics of choice during that period and they thought I was tracking them somehow (which we both laugh about now as they know my sensitivities).

When I was younger and less aware of these intricacies or what HSP or a Highly Sensitive Person or Empath is, I simply knew I was compassionate, sensitive or empathic or “knew things”. I was not aware of how or why I would feel other people’s “stuff” or how to distinguish what was theirs from mine. In some cases I would unintentionally take on others hurts and trauma in an attempt to take it from them as if I they could heal (there is a term in psychology for this which alludes me right now).

And, I did not understand why others weren’t like me, why they weren’t so sensitive or caring. I liked to be alone A LOT (and still do as a form of self-care) and I didn’t understand why my parents were frequently complained about me spending a lot of alone time in my room with my music or reading. It hurt every time someone told me I was “too sensitive” and I should toughen up or to stop crying as it was a natural part of me. Crying for me is a release and a way to process things that are overwhelming or intense and can be both positive and negative things. I cry when I am sad, happy, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, in love, discontent, taken advantage of or witness others being hurt and I take in others pain or trauma and experience it as my own.

I used to frequently lay awake in thought and question the Universe:

Why didn’t others care as much as I did? Why didn’t others cry? What is wrong with me? Why are others so insensitive or mean all the time? How could someone watch such horrific violence on tv as if it were nothing? How could people abuse animals or each other? Why is the world so mean? What are we here for? How can I make the world a better place? What is my purpose or calling?

I still lay awake at night questioning things about life, healing, contributing to making the world a better place or how much I love the people that I love. And, I pray for the world at large for more healing, peace, harmony and Love. I simply don’t take it all on my shoulders like I once did.

I replay conversations over and over again in my head or map out future conversations especially if they may be confrontational. I abhor confrontation and like other HSP’s will do anything to avoid it.

I used to try to heal or fix everyone’s suffering. I simply hate suffering of any kind. I didn’t know I was worthy of anything good when I was younger and those thoughts and feelings still come up to be felt, worked through, released and recognized as false.

Until the last few years I was not aware of how I was masking so many parts of my authentic self in order to please others every day. I did not understand why I was so exhausted all the time or why I felt so confused and frustrated with certain people. I put others on false pedestals to boost their self-worth and so others would only see them in a positive light. The people I love so dearly that I worked so hard to please in so many ways, constantly trying to reach their level of perfection, contorting myself to mirror them so they would like me or feel better about themselves, focusing on their trauma and pain, trying to heal them to relieve their suffering, being their emotional dumping ground, dropping everything and running to them when they were in need, avoiding friendships, better health, weight loss or doing anything that felt good or healthy for me because it didn’t serve them or fit their comfort or made them feel less so I played small, very small so they would feel good and worthy or like/love me. I allowed others to hurt me over and over again out of what I thought was “compassion” for the hurt they experienced in their life that caused them to be that way, not retaliating or expressing my hurt (as it might hurt them even more). This created such unworthiness and hurt in my self but I thought that was what I was suppose to do as I had been so powerfully trained. If I attempted to express my hurts or needs I was quickly told I was selfish and it wasn’t about me. Or my feelings and needs would be dismissed or invalidated as if they were not real. I allowed others to create my identity and beliefs about myself by their harsh words or false accusations of me which caused severe depression and unworthiness for many years. Trying to fit in to situations that were so out of alignment with my authentic self that it hurt. I remained faithful to those who were unfaithful to me or went behind my back. At times I was even present when others were talking about me and or sharing with others anything they could to shine a light on my “faults” and they would deny it to my face or say they were “just joking” while I stood there humiliated time and time again. But because they are family and I love them so much and I could see and feel their hurt and pain that created this in them, again I remained silent and in unhealthy attachments. I did so much people pleasing thinking I might finally get approval or be seen or loved. If I could just be the way everyone wanted me to be I would be worthy, feel normal and be loved. In the end I did not know where they ended and I began. I realized I had some serious enmeshment issues with a few specific people in my life that are/were dysfunctional and very toxic for me.

Being a highly sensitive woman and empath also brings great joy in many ways.

Since I am so sensitive and empathic and I have a certain history, I can easily empathize with others as to how they are feeling and help others feel valued, understood, seen and heard and turn their attention toward betterment and healing.

I am highly artistically creative in many different forms of art and I love beauty; especially nature and creation. I experience emotions deeper and feel pleasure, joy and love and positive emotions and feelings more intensely than most people I have ever known (and they don’t understand and even laugh at me, and that’s OK). I can easily be brought to tears listing to music or looking at a beautiful sunset or a simple leaf or flower, or the smell of rain or hearing the rain pitter pattering on the ground. Many times tears have streamed down my face as I have felt joy after cooking a meal that delights my senses and taste buds more than words. I easily and frequently cry at the thought of how much I love my daughters or my husband or animals or life. I am intoxicated by certain scents and can become emotional about how they make me feel and will indulge in them as often as they are available (strawberries for example). I fall in love easily and effortlessly (although I am a bit less naive now). Certain types of touch are too powerfully pleasurable to put into words and evoke deep emotion simply at the thought of them, even just the brush of a hand on my skin. I think too much and I think very deeply (can be both positive and very challenging) and I process information deeply and slowly which can be either challenging for others or beneficial in certain situations and making decisions if I take the time and allow myself to process without feeling overwhelmed (which is challenging). I feel the emotions of others and this can be a blessing in creating deeper connection with those who reciprocate connection positively and authenticity. I have always been very nurturing, caring and loving (just with boundaries now). I am really good at inspiring others and seeing their own unique talents and beauty. I am excellent at noticing patterns and behavior which enables me to navigate situations and contrast. Among, other things.

Although this is not the full summary of my life experience both positive and negative nor who I am, there is so much that has brought me to where I am today and created the me that I be. My life is colorful and rich in so many ways. And, I continue to expand and grow in becoming my best version of me in authenticity.

Awakened Empath and HSP

I have gone through a powerful awakening over the past few years particularly. I have navigated through the grief of initiating divorce after 30 years of marriage, the grief of the sudden loss of my youngest sibling, my brother Brendan which I still have a difficult time believing is real, and the loss and change of other relationships very close to me. My whole life has completely been turned upside down. I have walked through peri-menopause and I am now navigating through menopause which I am certain contributed to my awakening as my hormones and emotions are so deeply affected in so many ways. And, who could forget the trauma from the past few years to the human race which was difficult not only personally, but I also felt the trauma of the world at large and it was and is extremely overwhelming and exhausting and I navigate remaining grounded each day. And, I am now married to a man whom I love dearly who also has neuro-divergent traits and we do our best to understand each other, show compassion and support each other in our healing and better health individually and as a couple.

As a certified energy healer in multiple modalities, I use energy healing frequently to bring calm to the chaos and ground myself in my own energy and spiritual truth.

I am very protective of my emotional health and energy and space around me in order to keep my sanity and inner peace to the best of my ability. I know what is healthy for me quickly and clearly by the way I feel internally. It is very frustrating to me when others try to step over my boundaries or debate them.

If I allow myself to do so, like anyone else, I can go down a slippery slope of victim mentality if I am not careful when thinking about my life and upbringing. So, I am on a continuous life-long journey doing my own inner-work and self-healing as it comes up in order to release the old patterns and trauma. A couple of the most challenging and difficult things for me to have learned are saying, “no”, speaking up for myself and intentionally setting high boundaries with others from my past and in new relationships, too. I take a significant amount of personal down time and do my best to avoid purposefully putting myself in situations that create intense misalignment or overwhelm. And, if I am not feeling in alignment with a request, I do my best to pause before responding. And, I have other self-care routines in place such as meditation and prayer, dietary changes as they feel needed, personal care and other habits that I protect.

My Own Healing Path Ignites My Passion in Helping You

My work centers mostly around helping you love and accept yourself as you are as a highly sensitive person, empath or high masking autistic woman. You were created and born the way you are for a reason. You are worthy of Love, abundance and prosperity and goodness because you exist.

Recognizing the beauty that you are right now, just as you are brings me joy beyond measure.

My favorite quote is

“Be The Change You Wish to See in the World” by Gandhi

Infinite Blessings, Yvette

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Yvette Ruzmir is a seasoned energy healer with nearly 20 years of dedicated practice in the field. She holds multiple certifications in diverse modalities including tapping therapy, Access Consciousness, Reiki, and more, reflecting a profound commitment to self-healing and holistic healing practices. Her extended study and use of self-healing methods for herself and with others enables her to address energy imbalances and help others begin in personal transformation and self-healing.

Beyond her healing skills, Yvette is a passionate law of attraction and manifesting coach and teacher. She integrates these philosophies into her work, encouraging others to harness their own inner power, amplifying their connection with Source Energy/God and manifest their deepest desires. Her approach is deeply heart-centered, focusing on awakening spiritual empowerment and divine sovereignty in those she supports.

Yvette began her own journey through her dedication to heal herself first and continues this path of self-reflection and healing which ripples out into her relationships and work with others. Her deep desire is to help others realize what is possible through healing generational patterns, old wounds, beliefs and intentions that keep them stuck in unhappiness, dis-ease and feeling hindered, blocked and disconnected from their authentic self and spiritual sovereignty and self-power.

Yvette is enthusiastic about helping others realize their fullest potential and see their own unique beauty by encouraging them to fully embody their authentic selves and express their unique gifts. She lives her life committed to nurturing growth, self-awareness, and spiritual awakening, making her a trusted guide for those seeking to expand their consciousness and live with greater purpose and clarity.