Do you suffer from PTSD due to a loved one being afflicted
with Trauma & PTSD?
Do you suffer almost as much as the person you love who suffers from PTSD? Do you have second hand PTSD?
In many cases, the person who suffers from a traumatic experience or PTSD affects those they love tremendously with their PTSD symptoms. A spouse or children especially can be intoxicated by the person who is suffering so much so that they take on the pain and symptoms or the responsibility of healing that person so much that they no longer have their own identity.
I can speak from experience in this case. My father has suffered with severe PTSD from multiple tours in Vietnam. (Let me begin by saying this post is not to make light in any way of those suffering PTSD first hand from trauma. And, it is not to take away from their experience of pain. Nor is it in any way intended to put a negative light or place blame on certain people or those who experience trauma or react in certain ways due to the trauma they have experienced. This post may upset family members and that is one reason I have never shared this before. However, I know others are suffering with similar issues and only intend to help others fully heal.)
I have not shared my experience of growing up with really anyone. However, in an attempt to help others heal, I will share some details. My father served multiple tours in Vietnam. He was in the deepest part of Agent Orange and all that and like many others who experience war first hand, he suffered much trauma. He suffered tremendous toxicity due to the Agent Orange and did not find out until a few years ago and even more recently the real health threat this poses. My father also suffers second hand PTSD that was passed down from his father who ran his home like a military as well and was a physically and emotionally harsh environment – which brings certain types of trauma to a family as I’ve come to know & understand.
For most of my father’s life that I have known him (as far back as I can consciously remember), our family has never been what I used to consider normal. We have always been sort of outcast by others as I was growing up. We moved around a lot, and I mean A LOT. I can remember moving pretty much every year if not more often, and I rarely stayed in one school, whether it was due to moving or because I had to change schools because I was getting older and had to change schools. I think one time, I counted a different school for every year of school 1-12th grade. I can remember not always beginning the school year with the other kids, which is difficult on finding and keeping friendships as they already had their groups or cliques and I was the new kid. I can remember living in areas that I really didn’t feel the safest. I know my parents tried, but sometimes when there is lack of money, you have to find a house in different parts of town. I can remember living with relatives for short periods, which is most uncomfortable as a child as you can’t play normally as you have to watch everything you do. I can remember class mates always seemed to have nicer clothes and other things. We shopped at second hand shops and I got excited to receive hand me downs to have newer clothes, and I didn’t understand when it seemed that everyone else had brand new. We always had a car that seemed on the verge of breaking down and old. And, a large part of my memories revolved around my dad’s health. As kids, we worried if our dad was going to die. He seemed to suffer so much physically and emotionally. He could not eat anything, I mean anything. His diet was so restricted. He could eat only a couple things that would not cause him to be in severe pain, literally a couple things. And, if he ate the wrong thing, anything other than the couple OK items, he would suffer severe chest pain and esophageal pain and seemed to be constantly “throwing up”. Certain types of physical exertion or exercise would cause or contribute to this severe pain not just for short periods, but for weeks. We thought he was having heart attacks or something and did not know what was causing the pain or if he was going to live. We feared that he would die, on a regular basis. I can remember my dad taking me for a bike ride one day, and he had to stop, because of the pain in his chest. I was so scared that he was dying. We somehow got home. I don’t even remember how now.
He was also mad a lot and even though fortunately he didn’t beat us, he had a temper and used the belt a few times. Cursing and rage in his face, eyes and teeth are the things I can remember most even as an adult when he gets angry for sometimes no “real” reason. It could be something most people might consider pretty small and the cursing and rage in his eyes, the gritting teeth can be scary. And, you just try to stay clear. An overall negative attitude no matter how hard he tries to be happy or positive.
And, he had absolutely no self confidence or self esteem as I look back as well. He always took small jobs and never charged what he was worth. He always lowered his price and was taken advantage of in many cases, as he was self employed most of the time, as he could not work for someone else due to the PTSD symptoms. So, our family was always short of money even though my mother worked, too. There were periods that he could not work at all. He was in a state of depression or pain and just could not bring himself to go to work or physically could not work due to the pain.
And, he has suffered severe nightmares all these years as well.
This has progressed even into my adulthood as he ages.
We have all walked on eggshells to avoid upsetting him so he either doesn’t get angry and upset which also contributes to the physical symptoms worsening. And, we don’t want to deal with the angry episodes and bad attitude. And, in some ways, have all probably felt that what we needed always came second, because we had to take care of him or his symptoms were worse and our “trivial” issues didn’t compare to what he was living with physically or emotionally. This creates it’s own form of trauma even though I know it has never been intended purposefully.
This is the original reason for my search for a true healing method along with wanting my own health issues addressed and truly healed not just covered up.
Our family has taken on his PTSD second hand. We have all suffered not only watching and experiencing his emotional and physical pain, but, taken on certain aspects from him. And, “traits” have affected our life and families as well. We have all felt in some way that we have to heal him and baby him. I have taken on that responsibility in the most drastic fashion personally for many years, again, one reason I found Quantum Techniques and now practice it remotely to help others anywhere. It has become one of my biggest passions today. I don’t believe we were meant to suffer through life without ever healing and feeling joy. I believe we are meant to be healthy and feel joyful for life!
I have found in my own life personally, that Quantum Techniques has the ability to help those suffering with PTSD and second hand PTSD symptoms with amazing results. It is normally not just a one session fix, however, depending on the layers of trauma that are present. However, in many cases, the benefits can be felt very quickly as you work through layers of healing. In some cases many layers can be removed very quickly or even all at once depending on what your body is ready to release. The results far out-weigh anything I have seen or found. When used correctly and most efficiently, it has the ability to clear years of suffering in a much faster manner than traditional methods. Through bio-energetic muscle testing deep layers and truth can be found for effective healing. And, one of the benefits of Quantum Techniques is you don’t have to relive the trauma or even know what the actual trauma is for healing. Using advanced bio-energetic muscle testing identifies what your body considers the most valuable thing to heal first, second, and down the line. This is beneficial in cases where the trauma was so severe that our body & mind has blocked the memory as it is too painful. This can be the case in childhood abuse, sexual abuse or other abuse, or any other severe trauma.
Trauma comes in many forms. I think most people think trauma is a rape, abuse, being accosted or divorce or something similar. However, trauma comes in many forms depending on how the individual receives it and holds it based on their life experiences. It can be very traumatic as stated above, suffering second hand PTSD, in many ways. You may be responsible for taking care of the person who suffers with trauma & PTSD, you may feel responsible for their healing, you don’t get to take care of yourself so you lack attention you may need to feel loved and cared for and you may feel guilt for wanting love, affection, attention and someone to take care of you for a change. Trauma could be any of the above, or a child hearing parents repeatedly fighting while they are in bed at night, a parents divorce, death of a loved one or anyone you know or even don’t know, death of a loved family pet, seeing someone else abused, emotional abuse through another’s words, even having someone of authority or that you look up to and respect speaking to you in a certain manner that belittles you. A trauma could also be a medical procedure or a procedure going bad that causes distress and trauma emotionally & physically, watching a loved on go through a serious or chronic illness for years, chronic or serious illness in yourself, or even the birth of another sibling or even watching the evening news when something horrific happens. There are limitless forms of trauma that many may not consider trauma, however to the person receiving it, it may be very traumatic. In some cases, you may not even realize it as a trauma for you, however, your body or emotional system may have received it as a trauma and may be holding it inside for healing and can even manifest in physical symptoms to get your attention for healing.
If you would to begin your journey to personal transformation, healing & well being, or have any questions, I invite you to email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org or for more information please visit here:truehealingsource.com
– Yvette Marie is a Certified Energy healer, certified Thought Field Therapy practitioner, and Advanced Bio-energetic muscle testing practitioner using advanced energy and body scans through Quantum Techniques methods. Yvette has also been certified as a Reiki practitioner and Access Consciousness practitioner. She is not a licensed therapist. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care. –
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