The Harmful Effects of Porn On A Marriage

How does porn affect a monogamous relationship or marriage?

Is there a way to heal yourself and your relationship?

What a woman experiences when she finds out her husband uses porn with masturbation.

Will there ever be trust again?

  • WARNING: This post may be too explicit for some as it discusses porn and the harmful effects of pornography, and is recommended for those over the age of 21.

These are a few important questions when finding out porn has invaded your marriage or monogamous relationship. Porn is a sensitive subject for some, and it can cause the breakup of an otherwise happy relationship or marriage, once it’s discovered.

In today’s society, porn has become something to laugh about with sitcoms on tv regularly mentioning or glorifying the use of porn in many cases with a married man using it and his wife standing by shaking her head with a grin like he is a naughty little boy, and everyone laughing as if there is no dark side of pornography – in a marriage especially, but also for young men who learn from porn and have their first experience with porn ad it can be detrimental to their future relationships.

In my research and talking with a psychologist who did marriage counseling for 20 years, I was told that not once, did he find that pornography was helpful in any way to a marriage, and in most cases was detrimental to the relationship.

Research on the effects of pornography not only on the person viewing it, but on a relationship or marriage can be like cancer. It just eats away and erodes the relationship & trust until there is nothing left.

Here are a few things I have found in my research about the negative effects of porn on a committed monogamous relationship or marriage:

  1. Porn changes your brain and takes you out of reality (It’s a LIE) – It makes you want more and more and from what I found, many times simple porn becomes monotonous and then it turns into porn involving rape or other less positive scenarios and in some cases, the person watching gets more aggressive in real life sex. Porn warps your sense of reality of sex and making love. It cuts you off from the outside world and you live in a fantasy world where all women enjoy being dominated and easily orgasm repeatedly because the man breathed on her (I know – a little exaggerated, kind of…). In pornography, women have orgasm after orgasm the instant the man touches her without the man having to actually do anything or show any kind of emotion or real intimacy or connection. I many cases, the woman is bent over or on her knees in submission while the man just takes her as he pleases without any sort of mutual affection of any kind.
  2. Addiction – Most people who begin using porn become addicted. Studies show that actual brain function changes in someone who has an addiction – And, an addiction of any sort, is still an addiction, whether it’s drugs, alcohol, sex, masturbating, smoking, food, fanatical healthy eating or exercise, or even biting your nails. Addictions are unhealthy. Addictions take over your life, your family and you are controlled by it, and you are always searching for your next “fix” to get high on.
  3. Broken Trust – In most cases, the partner has no idea the other person is using porn and masturbating. In many cases, the spouse (in most cases the wife or girlfriend) can sense something is wrong, the partner is distant, doesn’t communicate like he used to, is easily agitated, and does not seem interested in sex any more and won’t talk when approached and becomes defensive and blaming and may even use the excuse that sex isn’t all that important. They are getting sexual needs met using porn and masturbation instead of actually having a real sexual relationship with intimacy with their partner. Many women feel such a profound sense of betrayal. It does not matter that it is just an image. She is now in your partners (husbands’) brain & memory. He has had sex with her in his mind while masturbating to her image. You now have to “compete” for your man’s attention, devotion, love, fidelity, desire, sex, and more. Once the partner finds out about the porn use, this leads to feeling of deception, loneliness, betrayal, unworthiness, unloved and complete loss of trust as if the other person had actually had an extra-marital affair. They feel they are not enough for their spouse any more. They feel somehow “less”. Some women feel so horrible and disregarded, betrayed and cheated on that they fall into deep depression and have difficulty forgiving and ever trusting again. And, in some cases, they are so depressed they wonder why they are alive. And, many people believe that this is just another form of an extra-marital affair. In many cases, research shows that a high percentage of men who begin with porn, end up having extra-marital affairs as well. The porn is just not enough any more and they want the real thing, another woman, prostitute or fling other than their partner. Without help, these feelings can go on for years & even the rest of your life, and completely erode a marriage and any future relationships. Even if the husband promises to never use porn again (in many cases they hide it even better), and the wife is always on guard, looking for clues, searching, investigating and mis-trusting.
  4. It’s cheating & deception – Let’s get real for just a moment, in many cases, the person using porn is hiding it from the other partner (most times the female partner). If you actually felt good about what you were doing (I’m not just talking physically), and thought your partner wouldn’t feel like you were cheating, and didn’t think your spouse or partner would be upset or want you to stop, you wouldn’t go to such great lengths of hiding it from your partner, erasing internet history, wiping your hard drive, having hidden phone apps that look like calculators and other “real” apps to hide porn usage. If you thought your partner would be perfectly fine about your porn usage, you would not do it while they were asleep or away from the house. You would not hide secret files on your computer or have passwords on your phone. If you really thought your partner would be OK with it, you would do it openly and freely. And, there really is not much difference in fantasizing about having sex with another person while you masturbate and actually doing it. According to scientific studies & quantum physics studies on the body & brain connection, your body does not know the difference between a thought or fantasy and reality. Your body and muscles, all fire and wire the same way if you imagine running a race as actually getting up off the couch and running the race. Studies have proven that you can imagine exercising over a period of time and the structure of muscles actually changes. Most (all) marriage vows do not state “I agree to be kind-of faithful, until I am bored with you, and then I will use porn and masturbate and pretend I am with another person (cheating) and stop having sex with you”.
  5. Boredom – So, you’re bored with your sex life. In some studies the reason men gave for watching porn was boredom with their partner sexually. There is actually a cure for that – it involves work, though. Having a meaningful open, and trusting conversation with your partner and looking for ways to spice up your sex life and have more playfulness together can lead to a lot of fun! Most people are not willing to actually put in the “work”, take the time, or put themselves on the line asking for more in their relationship in any area, especially sex. In my research, it seems that many women would be excited if their partner wanted something different, something more playful, even role playing, dress up, costumes or whatever. There is no reason to be bored unless you are just unwilling or have a sexual abuse situation. I can pretty much guarantee it is worth it and it keeps the trust in your relationship. Once the porn is found out, the trust is immediately broken as if an actual physical sexual affair. Many marriages do not survive without help and healing and rebuilding real trust.
  6. Laziness & Selfishness – How long does it take to watch some porn and masturbate? Only a few minutes? Porn teaches instant pleasure only for you. What your partner wants or needs does not matter. This can manifest in other areas in a relationship where the person becomes annoyed if they have to wait for anything. Porn teaches you deserve pleasure when you want it, no matter what anyone else wants or needs. How long does it take to tantalize your partner, maybe wine and dine your partner, or even just make a few playful sexual advances in an attempt to initiate and suggest sex now or later on? And, then, there is the actual sex, it could take a few minutes or more for your partner to get warmed up and take her thoughts off her job, the children, household duties or whatever else makes her feel very un-sexy all day. In many cases, you may not want to take the time to actually “make love” or have sex, it just takes too much of your time. What a way to tell the person you love that they are not worth your time – “sorry dear, masturbating to porn only takes a few minutes and I don’t have to work at it, and having sex together with you just take too much of my precious time”. What a woman hears is “you are not worth it”. Period.
  7. Disconnection – Porn teaches you to be disconnected with other real humans and reality which in many cases, bleeds over into real life. It can create an issue where there is difficulty bonding with real people. Studies have shown that a lot of men don’t feel they could really “get” a woman if they tried, so they don’t even try. They just continue with the porn/masturbation cycle and don’t even try to “get the girl” for real.In a loving & committed relationship, physical intimacy with another person brings a deep sense of connection – which is completely absent in porn & masturbation. Sex or making love is the most physically intimate, physical & emotional connecting, open & trusting thing you can offer to another person. Porn teaches selfishness especially from a man’s perspective due to the way porn portrays sex in many cases.
  8. Women orgasm instantly and I don’t need to do anything – If you are a young person and your first sexual experience is with porn (or not), you probably think that all women will just orgasm if you look at them the right way, like they do in porn. In porn many scenarios idealize the female submission role with the man in charge and the woman at his whim and for his pleasure. In real life, sex or making love, involves 2 people engaged in enjoying each other, together, unselfishly & selfishly. The joy of each other’s body raises excitement and pleasure, together. Not only do you feel good, you feel good bringing pleasure to your partner, too. Studies show that most women need to be warmed up. Women heat up like a slow burner in many cases – in some cases quicker depending on the circumstances and the person. They don’t turn on and off like a light switch. In porn, you are taught to be selfish and the woman is there mostly for the man’s pleasure purpose. This can make a person blame the partner as if something is wrong because they don’t orgasm like the porn stars. Porn doesn’t have any foreplay and get’s right into the actual act of sex – I know, that’s what it’s suppose to be, right?. Man penetrates woman and voila’ instant eroticism and repeated orgasms from the woman. And, once the man is finished, the woman is just glistening with joy and appears to want more as if she can’t get enough of his manhood. This is in most if not all cases, complete fantasy. This teaches men they don’t actually have to do anything to warm up or turn on a woman before, or during sex. It teaches there is no emotional connection or real caring involved in sex, ever. And, nothing about how to connect after sex or making love either. There is no “intimacy” in porn. It is disconnected & selfish.
  9. Dissatisfaction & criticism of your current mate – Porn changes what you might have once thought of as attractive in the opposite sex – in most cases the woman. Many studies show that when men use porn (video or photos) they begin to find dissatisfaction in their current partner (spouse, mate) who has birthed their children, who has not had plastic surgery to keep them in “perfect” shape, who is “softer” than they used to be and does not look like they are 18 years old. And in many cases, begin to criticize and find fault in them physically when they once did not – at least not enough that it bothered them and certainly would not say anything to them. They may have been attracted to the curve of their partners tummy, soft behind, soft breasts, etc. Porn is air brushed and makeup and fake. And, in many cases, have had some form of plastic surgery, especially breasts. So, men stop appreciating women (their partner) for their “real” body, their body that in many cases brought children into the world with them. They begin actually commenting on their partner’s body in unsatisfactory ways. And, they wonder why they don’t look like the women in their porn or at the strip clubs (we’ll talk about strip clubs later)
  10. You’re can’t get aroused by “just” your partner or spouse – Porn stimulates the arousal centers in the brain. And, When porn is accompanied by orgasm through masturbation, a chemical reaction happens and hormones are released. Our brains start to associate arousal with an image, an idea, or a video, rather than a person. Your partner is not the “trigger” for your arousal and sexual fulfillment – porn is. You’re mind and body only associate sexual gratification with pornography use.
  11. Porn teaches selfish sex not making love – “Billions of people have had sex, I don’t know how many have actually made love.” – Sheila Wray Gregoire, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. Porn does not depict making love. Making love releases brain chemicals, endorphins & hormones that creates an intense chemical bond with your partner. When you use porn & masturbation, those chemicals are released while using an image instead of a real person. The brain then associates arousal with an image or idea of the person presenting the porn, instead of a real person.
  12. Many women in porn have been abused – I have ready studies that show that in many cases, the women that are in porn, have been sexually abused in some way. Need I say more.
  13. Prefers masturbation over “real” sex – In many cases men prefer masturbation to actually having sex or making love with their partner, spouse or wife. Porn allows a man to have immediate pleasure on his own terms and porn offers a higher level of sexual excitement & stimulation than married sex (it does not have to be this way). There are not family issues, emotional issues, arguments, rejections, foreplay, patience, and is always there, willing, ready, inviting and easy. No connections, no demand, no emotions, nothing ‘REAL’. Purely selfish. This is extremely hurtful to (in most cases the wife/girlfriend) the partner and can tear down a marriage quickly.
  14. Strip clubs are the same thing as porn = cheating & deception – A person is getting sexual gratification from another person in person and in many cases, being touched and caressed and stroked by the stripper in various ways with various body parts (even until the male reaches ejaculation). This is SEX! Sex does not only mean penetration. And, if it was not something to hide from a spouse or partner, there would not be special “underwear” advertised for men to wear to cover up ejaculation while getting a lap dance. These special undergarments are designed to help it feel more like real sex during a lap dance, but also leave no trace on underwear that there was an ejaculation for your spouse to find. So, as I write this, I think many strippers are prostitutes without having penis-vagina sex. They are using other parts of their body to have sex with the paying client – sex for money is Prostitution. And, for the man, this is most certainly an intent to deceive. Where is the trust in a relationship here?

I am sure there are many more harmful effects of pornography on a monogamous relationship or marriage. And, I am sure one can argue of benefits of porn in a marriage or monogamous relationship – personally, I will never agree with this stance. In my experience I have known some women who have had porn in their marriage which resulted in divorce due to the deep hurt, feelings of betrayal, being cheated on, deception, loneliness, unworthiness, unloved and complete loss of trust and feeling like they had to compete with another woman. And, other cases, it took any years to heal without help. And, in some cases, they never did heal, they just lived alone with the pain. many women do not talk about this, as it is too hurtful and embarrassing. What woman wants to admit their husband prefers porn over them? They feel that they are not good enough. No woman want’s to admit their husband desires another woman in such a way that can bring such hurt.

I remember one instance in which a woman told me of how her husband would watch porn and then turn to her for sex. He would just do what he wanted without any regard to her needs, desires or feelings. She felt so used. I will never forget the look on her face as she said, “he doesn’t even care about my needs”, and began to cry.

If you have been traumatized & hurt due to your spouse or monogamous partner using pornography and you need help healing the trauma & hurt, I invite you to schedule a session and begin your journey to personal transformation, healing & well being, or if you have any questions, I invite you to email me @ or for more information please visit

– Yvette Marie is a Certified Energy healer, certified Thought Field Therapy practitioner, and Advanced Bio-energetic muscle testing practitioner using advanced energy and body scans through Quantum Techniques methods. Yvette has also been certified as a Reiki practitioner and Access Consciousness practitioner. She is not a licensed therapist. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care. –

– Hold Harmless – by using these methods, you agree to be 100% solely responsible for your health & wellness, the health of your family, and animals and hold you Yvette 100% free of responsibility or harm. Use of bio-energetic muscle testing has never been found to cause harm to anyone nor has any form of energy healing. –

Are You Trying to Lose Weight and Nothing is Working?

Are you stuck in your weight loss efforts?

Are you trying to lose weight but it just won’t budge?

There may be things beyond your awareness that are preventing you from losing weight. And, you can do something about it! 

Have you tried, and tried, and tried to lose weight, but your body seems to be working against you? Have you tried exercising every day, eating different, all the fad diets, body type or blood type weight loss plans and nothing helps?

I am going to give you a few tools to that might be very helpful. You might start out trying one, or all and see what changes for you.

Working with Quantum Techniques, I have found that there are so many things that could be blocking weight loss and other healing on physical and emotional levels that we are just not consciously aware of.

Our body’s are meant to self heal and be in a state of optimal health, that includes a healthy weight. In many cases, our body’s own intelligence is actually blinded by toxins and other things we may be using in our daily life. I am not just talking about toxins like chemicals that are poison. I am speaking of something much deeper. Everything is energy and therefore everything responds to other energy. Our body’s are no different. And, our body’s and cells have their own consciousness and intelligence and could work with our goals and desires if we (the mind and judgement) would just stay out of the way and let our body and cells do their jobs for us.

You may be using items on your body, or in your home or eating items that your body considers a “poison” basically, on an energetic level. When you use, consume or are around these toxins, your body’s energy meridian system becomes reversed, flowing backward. In turn, your body can not heal. It sort of turns the light switch in your body’s innate intelligence completely off. Your body becomes blind that there is anything wrong at all. This may mean that your body does not know it is sick, has cancer, has a tumor, has a cold, has arthritis, or has excess weight. Whatever it is, if you find that you have tried EVERYTHING to heal weight loss or other health issues, and nothing works for you, you very well may be using/eating or coming into contact regularly with items that are turning off your body’s own healing intelligence.

You may be eating items that are OK for your weight loss, however, you may not be eating the right amounts or calorie levels for YOU PERSONALLY. Your body needs different calories, protein, fat, carbs, sugars, water, and amounts of these items that are so different from any other person. Going by a chart that says you weigh such and such amount, and should only eat such and such calories and such and such carbs/protein, etc. to lose weight or maintain weight, is not really applicable for anyone in my opinion. In my understanding and experience, this is so very individual. I can help you find out exactly what your body needs and how much for your weight loss with advanced level bio-energetic muscle testing. Your friend or sister, or brother may need to eat only 1000 calories per day and specific amounts of whatever, and may be able to eat breaded chicken breast and lose weight, while, you may require 1500 calories and only low carb items with no breading, and so forth to lose weight.

You may also be eating items that are just not good against your personal weight loss. Maybe drinking milk or eating ham or whatever, is blocking your body from losing weight. This is different than the above toxin issue. Your body may need you to eat specific things and avoid specific things in order to lose weight. This is not about eating for your blood type or body type or low carb, low glycemic, fat free, only eating fish, vegetarian or whatever. This is tailored to YOUR  personal body’s intelligence. It may be hard to believe or understand, but, your body knows what it needs to have to do what you are asking of it. Your belief and judgement, just causes blocks to your body’s own intelligence. That could be in the other direction also, bulking up or for optimal muscle mass. You may be following what others have told you or what you have read in fitness or muscle magazines and articles, and your body may disagree. You and your energy system are completely different than any other person in the world that has ever lived or will ever live!

What can you do to fix this? 

One the most beneficial things you can do to begin with, would be to have your personal care items, all foods and supplements and items you eat, along with other items you regularly come into contact with tested and remove these items from your diet or personal care items. Do yo work in a chemical factory or other area where your body is battling inhaled toxins daily? Or are you near a cell tower receiving EMF frequencies regularly? We can test if your body will work with you to clear these items that are necessary for you to be around (such as a job) so your body is not in a state of reversal constantly. This can also be used in cases where you take a necessary medication that may be considered toxic by your body and cells. This would not be used to continue eating what you want just because you don’t want to change your diet. Your body knows the difference. I am not talking about healthy diet per se, or organic vs. non organic. This is completely different. Please read here for more information and understanding.

How do you go about with this testing?

I can help with this. I practice advanced level bio-energetic muscle testing and work with the most comprehensive form of energy medicine on the planet today, and can remotely test all of these items for you. That means, we can be across the country and work together. There is not face-to-face necessary. To some this may seem a little strange, but, it is absolutely 100% true and it is proven by science and quantum science and has been used for many, many years by practitioners all over the world in helping others to get into a profound healing state when everything else has failed.

I invite you to read a more about how I can help here or here or here.

What else can you do now to work with your body for healing and weight loss?

  1. Appreciation of your body – What one thing (or more) can you find about your body that you can feel appreciation for right now? Your eyes, smile, your perfect nose, your feet, your delicate hands, your strong hands, our skin your long legs, your short legs, your awesome hair? How about just appreciating our lungs for they allow us to breathe every day and they filter toxins and pollutants from our body. Our skin that filters toxins and breathes & holds everything inside where it belongs along with the fascia? Our brain that enables us to think in a way unlike any other creature on earth?  Our eyes to see? Our ears to hear? Our taste buds to taste exquisite, and delicious varieties of foods? What else? Everything is energy and resonates at a specific frequency (which can be measured with specific scientific instruments). It has been proven that Love & appreciation among other emotions are of the highest frequency. If you are feeling disgust and loathing  for your body, your body is aware and the frequency is lower and can not heal (or lose weight or whatever you are wanting your body to do) or work at it’s optimal level. Why do you think athletes have such amazing stamina and healthy body’s? They appreciate their body and what it is capable of. They feed it and nourish it with healthy foods, which not only benefits on a physical level because the food resonates at a higher frequency, but also on an energetic level of body appreciation frequency. An athlete or other person that loves & appreciates their body does not feed it garbage all day. They show their body Love & appreciate by taking care of it on all levels. They exercise and feed it oxygen. They may indulge in an ice cream sundae once in a while or take a day off from exercise (rarely), but not every day. And, because their body is healthy and flowing in an optimal energy frequency, it can easily rid itself of naturally of toxins it comes into contact with each day. I challenge you to find one thing today and each day (even if it is the same thing) to feel true appreciation for in or about your body.
  2. Exercise – This does not even have to be strenuous or crazy amounts. But, your body does need to get up and move. Exercise not only uses extra calories, but also brings more oxygen into your body. An image just came to me, no movement = no oxygen ( I picture my organs just lying around, sort of like couch potatoes, listless, tired, soft, gray and lifeless without color, without true form), and movement = oxygen & regeneration (I see my organs as breathing, happy, vibrant, regenerating new cells, moving around with energy, firm and with form inside my body where they should be, with healthy color). I even sat up straighter in my chair as I type this when I had this vision.
  3. Water – Our body’s are made up of about 55-60% water for an adult and about 75-78% for an infant. That tells me that my body NEEDS water to stay alive. I have read that our body can not survive more than a couple days without water/hydration. Your body needs water for it’s electrical system and all systems to work efficiently. When you are dehydrated, your body is tired and your organs are working overtime due to lack of water. It is my understanding that it is optimal to drink half of your body weight in clean fresh water, in ounces each day – that is the optimal amount. So if you weigh 200 lbs, you would drink 100 ounces of clean, pure water each day. This does not include water with other stuff in it, or tea or coffee, soda, alcoholic beverages, etc. Sorry, 5 Starbucks coffees a day, does not count! The water you drink is actually going to help clean these items out of your body. Your body needs pure water!
  4. Eat clean – This does not have to be organic. This means eating as clean as you possibly can most of the time (based on what tests good for you during your session  would be even more beneficial). If you are going it alone without a session, I might say try for at least 80% of the time to start. Or remove an item a day or every couple days that you know is not benefiting you – like that daily soda or Starbucks or those cookies or ice cream every night before bed. Sometimes baby steps are all that you are comfortable with. Any change in the right direction is to be celebrated! Your body will be grateful and show you appreciation in the way if behaves and responds. And, so will your mind and emotions.
  5. Vitamins & Supplements that test good for you – In many cases, when losing weight or moving toward optimal health, our body may need additional support with vitamins & minerals, etc. Your body may need to specific supplementation to help your organs/glands & tissues work optimally and be fully nourished. Before choosing those vitamins & minerals, I encourage you to read this post here for some very informative information to help make choices
  6. Meditation – Yes, meditation. You don’t have to be ultra-spiritual or be into voo-doo or a flower child in today’s world to meditate – even corporate heads, celebrities and athletes & musicians meditate daily and promote it openly. Even just a few minutes a day, can be super beneficial on all levels, emotional & physical. It is my understanding and experience that meditating can most definitely bring a state of calm to an otherwise stress filled day. And, in my research, studies show that meditation can lower blood pressure (also beneficial for high stress lives that many lead). Meditation has been shown to actually facilitate & benefit healing physically & emotionally. Meditation can be just sitting and clearing your mind for 5 minutes. Find a quiet place, without interruption and just close your eyes and think of being on the beach or petting your dog (or whatever helps you feel calm) and just imagine that serenity. Or you could use a mantra or prayer for meditation or even soothing music. Meditation is meant to bring you back to the present moment (even if only for a moment or two), take you out of your thoughts and find a calm within – yes, it may be hard to believe, it is there, and we all have access to it, you just have to ask and seek it out to find it!) Try it, you will probably never want to stop once you do. In fact many successful corporations today even have places at work, for their employees to go for meditation and calm which can be so beneficial for productivity and a happy work environment in general.

Of course there are always other things you can do to assist in healthy weight loss. These are just a few I find helpful and beneficial not only for weight loss but, general wellness of our body.

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If you would like to schedule a session and begin your journey to personal transformation, healing & well being, or have any questions, I invite you to email me @ or for more information please visit

– Yvette Marie is a Certified Energy healer, certified Thought Field Therapy practitioner, and Advanced Bio-energetic muscle testing practitioner using advanced energy and body scans through Quantum Techniques methods. Yvette has also been certified as a Reiki practitioner and Access Consciousness practitioner. She is not a licensed therapist. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care. –

– Hold Harmless – by using these methods, you agree to be 100% solely responsible for your health & wellness, the health of your family, and animals and hold you Yvette 100% free of responsibility or harm. Use of bio-energetic muscle testing has never been found to cause harm to anyone nor has any form of energy healing. –

Do You Take the Right Vitamins & Supplements in the Right Amounts for Your Body? Let’s Find Out!

How do you know if the supplements you take are the right ones for your body right now?

How do you know if you are taking the right dose for your body’s nutritional needs at this time?

How do you know if your vitamins & supplements or other items aren’t actually hindering your health, well being, weight loss, etc.?

One of the things I do in my personal life as well as with clients, is to use advanced level bio-energetic muscle testing to determine what items they use are personal energetic toxins and energy reversal items. This could be anything ingested, inhaled, any contact items or injected items and other items. If you are coming into contact with items that are energetic toxins or energy reversing items for you on a personal level, your energy system is running backwards, and your healing is blocked, any kind of healing with any method. This includes standard medicine, medications, Reflexology, Chiropractic, massage, energy medicine, Reiki, etc., all of it. Basically, you can receive the healing, and it just won’t stick, which means not only are you staying in a state of dis-ease, but also just wasting money.

Recently, I was testing some supplements that I had to see if it was worth even taking them for my body’s needs. Of course I had tested if the supplement was good for my body, meaning it is not an energetic toxin that would cause my energy meridians to be in a a reversed state which blocks any healing of any kind.

Then I went on to test if it would be beneficial or significantly beneficial to use the supplement at all. Testing showed that it would be significantly beneficial with the correct dosage. When I tested the supplement, testing showed that my body would like to have this supplement at this time. I also tested that my body would need 4000mg for a significant health benefit and healing.

Ok, you may say, how can this information benefit me? 

  1. The recommended amount on the bottle was 1000mg (1 little itty bitty scoop that came with the supplement). So, if I had purchased the supplement assuming that I was going to take the recommended dosage, I would assume that my supplement might last me 4X longer than testing shows, since my body wants 4X the recommended dosage right now.
  2. A person might be on a limited budget and assuming they will be taking the recommended dosage feel the investment is worth the cost since it may last quite a bit longer. Well, if this is the case, and you find that you should be taking 4X the recommended amount, than you will be purchasing the supplement frequently and if cost is a factor for you, you might choose not to purchase at all since taking a quarter of what your body may need, may not yield any real significant health benefit or results.
  3. If you assume that you should be taking the standard amount, you may not even notice a difference in the way you feel using the supplement, which is one of the major reasons for taking it, right? So, like many people I have known, including myself, I have taken supplements in the past, and felt no significant change and felt that it was just a waste of money to take the vitamin or supplement and kind of got irritated that nothing really seemed to change and I didn’t feel any better after taking a vitamin or supplement for a length of time.
  4. If I had tested that the the vitamin or supplement was an energetic toxin or energetic reversal item for me personally, I would not purchase the item, saving a significant amount of money over time.
  5. Without testing, I may have purchased it and it could have been an energetic toxin or energetic reversal item to my body. If that is the case, it may even worsen my health, my symptoms, generate new symptoms and prevent me from healing anything at all.

In this instance, I can be assured that my body is getting the amount it needs without wasting time and money.

With this advance level remote muscle testing, you can find out if the items you are consuming are not only good for your body right now, but, if you are trying to lose weight, is it hindering your personal weight loss? There may be items that should be limited but not completely removed from your diet and still lose weight. Everyone’s energy is different, and no two people are exactly alike. In this manner, you can be sure you are not just using the latest fad diet, but one that is actually beneficial for your body and your goals of health or weight loss or whatever. And, things change over time, our body’s and our energy are constantly in a state of change. So, if after a session you are on track, losing weight and suddenly weight loss comes to a halt, there may be an energy toxin blocking the weight loss, or your body may be asking for a change in diet to keep on losing weight.

I can help you evaluate & tailor your diet, vitamins & supplements and other things to help you achieve optimal health & wellness.

If you would like to schedule a session and begin your journey to personal transformation, healing & well being, or have any questions, I invite you to email me @ or for more information please visit

– Yvette Marie is a Certified Energy healer, certified Thought Field Therapy practitioner, and Advanced Bio-energetic muscle testing practitioner using advanced energy and body scans through Quantum Techniques methods. Yvette has also been certified as a Reiki practitioner and Access Consciousness practitioner. She is not a licensed therapist. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care. –

– Hold Harmless – by using these methods, you agree to be 100% solely responsible for your health & wellness, the health of your family, and animals and hold you Yvette 100% free of responsibility or harm. Use of bio-energetic muscle testing has never been found to cause harm to anyone nor has any form of energy healing. –

Do You Suffer From Second Hand PTSD?

Do you suffer from PTSD due to a loved one being afflicted with Trauma & PTSD?

 Do you suffer almost as much as the person you love who suffers from PTSD? Do you have second hand PTSD?

In many cases, the person who suffers from a traumatic experience or PTSD affects those they love tremendously with their PTSD symptoms. A spouse or children especially can be intoxicated by the person who is suffering so much so that they take on the pain and symptoms or the responsibility of healing that person so much that they no longer have their own identity.

I can speak from experience in this case. My father has suffered with severe PTSD from multiple tours in Vietnam and growing up with physical abuse & severe verbal abuse. (Let me begin by saying this post is not to make light in any way of those suffering PTSD first hand from trauma. And, it is not to take away from their experience of pain. Nor is it in any way intended to put a negative light or place blame on certain people or those who experience trauma or react in certain ways due to the trauma they have experienced. This post may upset family members and that is one reason I have never shared this before. However, I know others are suffering with similar issues and only intend to help others fully heal.)
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I have not shared my experience of growing up with really anyone. However, in an attempt to help others heal, I will share some details. My father served multiple tours in Vietnam. He was in the deepest part of Agent Orange and all that and like many others who experience war first hand, he suffered much trauma. He suffered tremendous toxicity due to the Agent Orange and did not find out until a few years ago and even more recently the real health threat this poses. My father also suffers second hand PTSD that was passed down from his father who ran his home like a military as well and was a physically and emotionally harsh environment (abuse) – which brings certain types of trauma to a family as I’ve come to know & understand.

For most of my father’s life that I have known him (as far back as I can consciously remember), our family has never been what I used to consider normal. We have always been sort of outcast by others as I was growing up. We moved around a lot, and I mean A LOT. I can remember moving pretty much every year if not more often, and I rarely stayed in one school, whether it was due to moving or because I had to change schools because I was getting older and had to change schools. I think one time, I counted a different school for every year of school 1-12th grade. I can remember not always beginning the school year with the other kids, which is difficult on finding and keeping friendships as they already had their groups or cliques and I was the new kid. I can remember living in areas that I really didn’t feel the safest. I know my parents tried, but sometimes when there is lack of money, you have to find a house in different parts of town. I can remember living with relatives for short periods, which is most uncomfortable as a child as you can’t play normally as you have to watch everything you do. I can remember class mates always seemed to have nicer clothes and other things. We shopped at second hand shops and I got excited to receive hand me downs to have newer clothes, and I didn’t understand when it seemed that everyone else had brand new. We always had a car that seemed on the verge of breaking down and old. And, a large part of my memories revolved around my dad’s health. As kids, we worried if our dad was going to die. He seemed to suffer so much physically and emotionally. He could not eat anything, I mean anything. His diet was so restricted. He could eat only a couple things that would not cause him to be in severe pain, literally a couple things. And, if he ate the wrong thing, anything other than the couple OK items, he would suffer severe chest pain and esophageal pain and seemed to be constantly “throwing up”. Certain types of physical exertion or exercise would cause or contribute to this severe pain not just for short periods, but for weeks. We thought he was having heart attacks or something and did not know what was causing the pain or if he was going to live. We feared that he would die, on a regular basis. I can remember my dad taking me for a bike ride one day, and he had to stop, because of the pain in his chest. I was so scared that he was dying. We somehow got home. I don’t even remember how now.

He was also mad a lot and even though fortunately he didn’t beat us, he had a temper and used the belt a few times. Cursing and rage in his face, eyes and teeth are the things I can remember most even as an adult when he gets angry for sometimes no “real” reason. There was one incident in particular, that we had a disagreement and I thought he might actually strike me and I might not get up. The rage was so present in his eyes and face, I was crying hysterically and through the tears, I just kept saying, “I want to be happy”.

This particular incident significantly impacted me for a long time. I actually felt like I might die that day at my fathers’ hand. I went into a deep depression and did not understand why. I felt like I was not sure why I was alive. I lost all faith and trust in the World at large. Keep in mind I was an adult when this happened. After growing up in a certain environment and experiencing personal trauma outside of that, it was just too much and was a severe trigger that resulted in an after shock.

For my dad his life has been clouded with an overall negative energy and attitude no matter how hard he tries to be happy or positive.

And, he has never had a sense of self confidence or self esteem as I look back as well. He is always cutting himself down before others have a chance. He always took small jobs and never charged what he was worth. He always lowered his price and was taken advantage of in many cases, as he was self employed most of the time, as he could not work for someone else due to the PTSD symptoms. So, our family was always severely short of money even though my mother worked, too. There were periods that he could not work at all. He was in a state of depression or pain and just could not bring himself to go to work or physically could not work due to the pain.

And, he has suffered severe nightmares all these years as well.

This has progressed even into my adulthood as he ages.

We have all walked on eggshells to avoid upsetting him so he either doesn’t get angry and upset which also contributes to the physical symptoms worsening. And, we don’t want him to go into a deep depression again (which he was hospitalized for when I was a teen at one point, and the medications made it worse at the time I think.) And, we don’t want to deal with the angry episodes and bad attitude, so we are all so careful what we say and do around him. And, in some ways, have all probably felt that what we needed always came second, because we had to take care of him or his symptoms were worse and our “trivial” issues didn’t compare to what he was living with physically or emotionally. This creates it’s own form of trauma even though I know it has never been intended purposefully.

This is the original reason for my search for a true healing method along with wanting my own health issues addressed and truly healed not just covered up.

Our family has taken on his PTSD second hand. We have all suffered not only watching and experiencing his emotional and physical pain, but, taken on certain aspects from him. And, “traits” have affected our life and families as well. We have all felt in some way that we have to heal him and baby him and that our own needs are not important. I have taken on that responsibility in the most drastic fashion personally for many years, again, one reason I found Quantum Techniques and now practice it remotely to help others anywhere. It has become one of my biggest passions today. I don’t believe we were meant to suffer through life without ever healing and feeling joy. I believe we are meant to be healthy and feel joyful for life!

How Can I Help You Heal from PTSD and Second Hand PTSD?

I have found in my own life personally, that Quantum Techniques has the ability to help those suffering with PTSD and second hand PTSD symptoms with amazing results and that is why I use it to help others!

QT is beneficial for so many things physically, emotionally and spiritually. It is one of the best methods to help someone with chronic illness or trauma available remotely in the World.

It can help clear a single trauma in one or 2 sessions resulting in more inner peace and can be life altering.

Working with long term PTSD can take multiple sessions, however, in my experience, it is the quickest method of helping someone heal from even long term upsets compared to traditional methods that could take years and tens of thousands of dollars.

From my experience and helping others, you actually notice a difference quicker than any method I have found in over 15 years study and practice.

In many cases, layers can be removed very quickly or even all at once depending on what your body is ready to release. Your body is meant to self heal, and it wants to heal as quickly as possible. It is always guiding you toward healing and inner peace. However, keep in mind that everything is energy, including thoughts, emotions, traumatic upsets and physical maladies. So, when you release a negative emotion, it is energy that is being released from your body. Your body and mind, still has to adjust to the new energy, a lighter energy. So, your body knows what it’s toxic load is, and will allow healing at the pace that is best for you without causing toxic overload.

The results far out-weigh anything I have seen or found. QT has the ability to clear years of suffering in a much faster manner than traditional methods. Through bio-energetic muscle testing deep layers and truth can be found for effective healing. And, one of the benefits of QT is you don’t have to relive the trauma or even know what the actual trauma is for healing. Using advanced bio-energetic muscle testing identifies what your body considers the most valuable thing to heal first, second, and down the line. This is beneficial in cases where the trauma was so severe that our body & mind has blocked the memory as it is too painful. This can be the case in childhood abuse, sexual abuse or other abuse, or any other severe trauma (which I have also experienced.)

There are many types of trauma. I think most people think trauma is a rape, abuse, being  accosted or divorce or something similar. However, trauma comes in many forms depending on how the individual receives it and holds it based on their life experiences. It can be very traumatic as stated above, suffering second hand PTSD, in many ways. You may be responsible for taking care of the person who suffers with trauma & PTSD, you may feel responsible for their healing, you don’t get to take care of yourself so you lack attention you may need to feel loved and cared for and you may feel guilt for wanting love, affection, attention and someone to take care of you for a change. Trauma could be any of the above, or a child hearing parents repeatedly fighting while they are in bed at night, a parents divorce, death of a loved one or anyone you know or even don’t know, death of a loved family pet, seeing someone else abused, emotional abuse through another’s words, even having someone of authority or that you look up to and respect speaking to you in a certain manner that belittles you. A trauma could also be a medical procedure or a procedure going bad that causes distress and trauma emotionally & physically, watching a loved on go through a serious or chronic illness for years, chronic or serious illness in yourself, or even the birth of another sibling or even watching the evening news when something horrific happens. There are limitless forms of trauma that many may not consider trauma, however to the person receiving it, it may be very traumatic. In some cases, you may not even realize it as a trauma for you, however, your body or emotional system may have received it as a trauma and may be holding it inside for healing and can even manifest in physical symptoms to get your attention for healing.

Contact me today to begin your self healing toward more Inner Peace & Harmony.

If you would to begin your journey to personal transformation, healing & well being, or have any questions, I invite you to email me @ or for more information please visit

DISCLAIMER: Yvette is not a licensed therapist or doctor. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care.

Hold Harmless – by using these methods, you agree to be 100% solely responsible for your health & wellness, the health of your family, and animals and hold Yvette 100% free of responsibility or harm. Use of Energy healing and other alternative healing methods mentioned above, and bio-energetic muscle testing has never been found to cause harm to anyone.

NOTE: There are many choices for you to use in your self healing journey that vary widely in cost from free information on the internet, to similar methods of practice that range in cost from $400 to over $2000 per hour. I offer a fee based, comprehensive, alternative approach at a very reasonable cost, an alternative service that is a choice not a necessity. It is not covered by insurance. (For my current fee schedule, please visit “Packages & Pricing” above). Bear in mind that it is often more rapid than a conventional approach and therefore may be more cost effective in the long run.

Do You Know the Ingredients That Go Into Your Food?

Do you know what the ingredients are that go into your food?

What are you actually eating and is it safe or is it even real food?

Would you really want to eat it if you knew?

This post is both humorous a bit due to the actual nature, and can also be a serious issue if you don’t do a little research and take responsibility for your own health.

The more I find out about what goes into our food that we buy, the more it makes me think it would be better to just grow my own garden and never buy anything at the market again, including some health food stores.

My brother and I were having a discussion this week, and he told me about an event that recently took place that, well… made us both laugh and make silly jokes, but sort of just grossed me out. And, as we talked and laughed about it, also get’s me frustrated a bit about the manufacturers of our food.

I know there is the whole Monsanto issue everyone talks about and in general, this isn’t really a new subject at all. However, there are also other food issues that in my opinion can be just as concerning.

So, my brother was in a local health food store where he regularly shops, and saw some “natural” peanut butter cups that he had never noticed before. So, he picked them up and proceeded to check out the ingredients. One of the ingredients was unfamiliar to him, and so he became suspicious and searched the item on his cell phone (Thank you for cell phones!!!). My brother, fortunately, likes to know what is being put into his body and researches his food.

Anyhow, the ingredient was called castoreum. Simply put it is anal secretions that beavers use to mark their territory. It is a “natural” alternative to vanilla. Ok, so a little humor first, let’s just get it out of the way. My family can just get silly about “silly” things and get really laughing and fun about certain subjects. Our first question of course was, “who decided that beaver anal secretions would be a vanilla alternative for food?” as we laughed and joked. Who actually was the person to think “hmm, I wonder if this beaver anal secretion would smell and taste like vanilla and I could use it in my food?” And, other than a person having a vanilla allergy, why would you substitute real vanilla? We also have fake vanilla (chemicals) that are used in some foods, that even though I would not want to eat it, I think I would maybe even choose it over the ingredient mentioned above from beavers if I absolutely had to.

Now, I am all about growth and advancement in the right direction for the betterment of the Universe we live in. However, despite the jokes and humor that one could find in this, why, just why? WHY?

Past the humor, there is a real serious issue here. An article that I read stated that it can be used for vanilla flavoring in baked goods, chewing gum, pudding, etc. It also stated that, in the U.S., castoreum is sometimes just cited as “natural flavoring,” in ingredient lists. The short article also stated that “beavers aren’t bred with the goal of harvesting their butt mucus, so it’s not likely to be a very common source of vanilla flavoring, according to the Agency.”

I think we have a right to know exactly what is being put into our food that we buy. Of course the other alternative is to just eat 100% natural home grown or buy from trusted sources in your area.

Not everyone has the time, ability, know how or even the desire to grow all of their own food and we should be able to trust the sources that take care of this for us. I am sure that some people feel safer not know either. I know this may be a small issue, however, it just makes me think a little more about what I purchase at local markets and wonder what other “natural flavoring” ingredients are being put into our foods. And, if the company’s that make them have to label them as “natural flavoring” they obviously know that we, the public, would probably not purchase the item if we knew what that “natural flavoring” actually was. Right?

Just a little humor for your day, I hope. But, also a small wake up call to really start checking what you actually put into your body to take responsibility for your whole well being and health. There are so many more dangerous ingredients that are put into our food that we just take for granted that they are safe to eat because they are in our food and it “should” be safe for us to eat.

*Main source for article found here: (you can also search the internet for similar information)

–  Yvette Marie is a Certified Energy healer, certified Thought Field Therapy practitioner, and Advanced Bio-energetic muscle testing practitioner using advanced energy and body scans through Quantum Technique methods. Yvette has also been certified as a Reiki practitioner and Access Consciousness practitioner. She is not a licensed therapist. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care. –

–  Hold Harmless – by using these methods, you agree to be 100% solely responsible for your health & wellness, the health of your family, and animals and hold you Yvette 100% free of responsibility or harm. Use of bio-energetic muscle testing has never been found to cause harm to anyone nor has any form of energy healing. –

Are Your Ear Piercings Contributing to Your Chronic Physical Pain?

Could your pierced earrings be contributing to your chronic physical pain?

During one of my mom’s sessions with her Quantum Techniques practitioner, Stephen Daniel, he advised that her earrings tested as contributing to her inflammation which causes chronic physical pain. It was advised that removing them and wearing clip on earrings or no earrings at all could significantly reduce the inflammation resulting in pain relief. She was working on complete physical well being  & health by removing toxins through her diet and personal care items and other changes that Stephen had recommended through remote testing, and testing also showed that this could be significantly helpful in further reducing the pain.

What is the reason for this recommendation?

It was explained that there is a couple reasons.

Firstly, the earrings go through the skin and multiple metals tested as toxins for her.

Secondly, there is a whole form of acupuncture points called the Auriculotherapy in your ears and your ears are also rich in many meridians.

When your meridians are not flowing correctly and there is blockages in your acupuncture or acupressure points, healing can be inhibited or blocked completely.

What about wearing a wedding ring or other jewelry you might ask? Unless you have a specific metal toxicity or allergy, it is quite different for the above reasons.

So, if you have symptoms of arthritis, fibromyalgia & other chronic pain, along with testing for and removing personal toxins, you might try removing pierced earrings for a week or tow or even longer and see if that makes a difference in the level of physical pain you may be experiencing. She asked if she could wear them for just a couple hours a day when going out of the house, and it was advised that even this short amount of time, could significantly increase the level of inflammation in turn raising pain levels.

Of course, this also depends on your level of metal toxicity and other factors. I would recommend being tested if you are unsure.

If you would like to be tested, or if you would like to begin your journey to personal transformation, healing & well being, or have any questions, I invite you to email me @ or for more information please visit here:

–  Yvette Marie is a Certified Energy healer, certified Thought Field Therapy practitioner, and Advanced Bio-energetic muscle testing practitioner using advanced energy and body scans through Quantum Techniques methods. Yvette has also been certified as a Reiki practitioner and Access Consciousness practitioner. She is not a licensed therapist. Energy healing is not intended as diagnosis, prescription, or treatment for any disease, physical or mental. It is also not intended as a substitute for regular medical care. –

–  Hold Harmless – by using these methods, you agree to be 100% solely responsible for your health & wellness, the health of your family, and animals and hold you Yvette 100% free of responsibility or harm. Use of bio-energetic muscle testing has never been found to cause harm to anyone nor has any form of energy healing. –